Adulting

I could post about the hell of a flu I have been experiencing for the last week and how I didn’t want to be sick on my 40th birthday BUT.... I have a few friends whom remind me to post positive! So I will post this.. Adulting. Y’all, it’s part of life. When we are young we have a choices. Most of us do. We could chose to adult and stand on our own two feet. For example, get a job, a place to live, pay our bills etc. Some of us have other choices like leave the nest and mo e in with some guy (could be the love of your life) or we could choose to stay in the nest. When I was growing up, I flew out of the nest and into college for four years. I did meet the love of my life as a junior in college and thank God he knew that I needed to ADULT. I NEEDED to stand on my own to feet. I needed to work. I needed to pay my own bills. So he didn’t allow me to strap myself to him and be his burden. I did just that. I got a job, paid bills, bought a bigger truck, bought a couple of horses etc. I then went back to school and obtained my Masters Degree. I thought he would then let me move in with him but again, he made me figure it out. I got another job. I worked. I barrel raced. I stood on my own two feet. I finally was able to get married to this love of my life and I was grateful that he “made me” adult. It sure gave me a different perspective on life in general. It made me a little more fragile. It made me appreciate all the little things that we had. Yes, we got married one month shy of 8 years of dating but I would not trade it now. Looking back, I needed all of my life lessons to be who I am today. I see a lot of younger people trying to go from the nest into a marriage. I see them trying to go from one person paying their way to another person supporting them. Y’all, you need to stand up. You need to step up. You need to ADULT. Learning to self sustain and live by yourself is hard as heck but it is necessary! You can still have the love of your life right there without jumping into their nest. It seems easy to go from one place to another and let someone else support you but did you learn to love yourself? Did you learn to sustain yourself? Did you learn how bills work? Until you learn these things, you can’t possibly appreciate your other half. I guess you could but in reality you need to learn about the world without someone else sheltering you. So I encourage all of you young people to go out AND LIVE. Figure out what makes the world go round. Figure out what makes you happy other than your spouse. You will have a longer, healthier relationship if you learn the basics of standing on your own two feet. I’m not shaming those who choose to leave one nest for another. I’m just saying to give it a try. Stand up! Be you! You will be happier! You will learn to appreciate the love and support of your significant other!